Reiki

Have you ever wondered what is Reiki? Have you ever asked someone what it is?

I would bet that if you have asked you have gotten this response

“Reiki is a Japanese technique for stress reduction and relaxation that also promotes healing. It is administered by "laying on hands" and is based on the idea that "life force energy" flows through all things.”   I got this from my website but have seen it lots of places. 

After receiving that information did you just say    “Oh”’  ?

I laugh as I type because I have seen it, someone asks me and I get all excited and passionate and quote things I have learned and tell them stories about sessions, all the while the person is looking at me like “really Tam just give me what I want to know, how does it work”  …… hmmm… “well it unblocks clogged up energy in your energy body and regular sessions can be a great part of your wellness plan.”  Again I laugh, I have ideas and thoughts of how and why I think Reiki works but I will be damned if I can articulate it on the spot.  J Heck I am having a tough time now and this is supposed to help clarify it! 

Reiki is what is all that I have stated above, but what is more important is what it can do for you.   

Reiki = Relaxation

I have been told by my hospice patients that during their session is the only time during the week that they don’t think, they are able to be “empty headed” as one patient told me. They love the peace it brings to their day.

Reiki is relaxing, Reiki lowers stress levels, blood pressure, and heart rate.

Some of my clients do not take care of themselves, they are always doing things for others, Reiki allows them to receive and to be nurtured, without being manipulated.  Massage is great for relaxation too, but I have heard of too many people being hurt or having an unsatisfying experience.  I also have some male friends who fear Reiki because they might get excited like they do getting a massage.  Reiki is non evasive, you do not even have to be touched at all.  Most guys I have for clients take a nap while I work. 

Imagine that taking a nap is a quiet area with soothing music and the only subject is you.   I won’t lie the first few times I had Reiki that experience was so new to me I just cried.  A whole ½ hour just for me?

Traditionally Reiki works with your bodies energy field, thoughts, pain, anger, and depression all hang out in your energy field. Many of the symptoms we have from an illness can be relieved with Reiki. 

Reiki helps to move the energy around and provide respite from your symptoms.  There have been cases in which Reiki has stopped pain for good or assisted in removing tumors, but I do not focus on those statistics.  If you would like more information on that I am sure I can dig some up.  To me what is more important is what Reiki can do for you now.  Today.

Reiki can bring a sense of peace to the chaotic, it can bring hope to the darkness, and it always brings love.  Reiki brings focus and awareness. 

Reiki can be used to help your kids, plants, your pets, and your living space. 

I am hoping this gives you a better idea, if not simply put Reiki is all about you.

Outside

"Someday we’ll find it the rainbow connection the lovers the dreamers  and me."  Kermit the frog, well Jim Henson and whomever wrote the song anyway this song was in my head as I sat to write the other day.

February 4, 2012 

Tonight I was walking my mom’s new puppy, the one I surprised her with and thought, how long has it been since I was standing in my back yard looking up at the full moon and seeing my old pal Orion up in the night sky the moon light was so pretty shining through the trees in my back woods.  It was lovely.

When I was younger, in High School, I used to fall asleep on my car or in the yard looking up at the night sky. Especially in the winter when the sky is so crisp and clear.  OK OK for that reason and there are also less bugs.  I dislike bugs that bite.

Anyway I love the moments when I realize I am doing something that I have always loved to do.  Like today when we were outside and my daughter took off her shoes to stand in the moss.  It is something I was showing her in the spring and with this unseasonably warm winter the mood struck her today so we stood in the moss for a bit and felt brand new. 

The pool we got installed last summer also draws me out into the yard to refresh and recharge.  Heck I even raked today and for those who know me know I am not huge into physical labor J.  Point is on the days that I feel crabby or that my energy is low, there is always a call to my back yard.  I love my back yard. 

Today I looked at my garden bed and realized I need to clean that out next, spring is coming!

Blessings. 

Rant from a parent

Before I start my rant I want to mention that prior to learning Human Design and learning from a long time parenting coach, I used to think how my children behaved or were as people in the world was a reflection on me.  That how my child did in school was a reflection of my ability to parent. 

I now realize that my children, and themselves, not an extension of me, they are both individual energetic beings with their own journeys.  I parent them both the same and have gotten two different results. They are both still pre-teens but I can see differences in their confidence, motivation, and interests. etc.

Today I had an incident in which a school administrator blew off a meeting with me for a list of reasons and as I questioned each one it was finalized that he felt since my child was sick this week I would not make the previously scheduled meeting.  This fired me up.  My son being ill and my ability to make a meeting are related how? If there is such a relation why was I not called? ......

I got home to see a post about a friend who was offended by a T.V interview, the guy in the interview blamed parents for their kids having ADHD for how quickly they pick them up and place them in a bathtub.

A parent is not at fault for a child's ADHD, a parent cannot in all instances keep their child home and teach them academically and make sure they get enough exercise and what they need and also monitor their stimulation and keep children in bubbles.  I mean we could and some so but is it effective.

Rather than finger point or come up with administrative reasons or budget constraints on why things happen and why things are not done for them, lets try to focus on what the kids need to be successful.

Why aren't we focused on each child individually and see what they need to succeed.  Why spend money on interviews and books showcasing blowhards and their ridiculous reasons for mental abnormalities.Let look at the conditions these kids suffer from and see what is at the core.

I will use me as an example, I am best focused when I am multitasking, this could be doing 2 things at once or having back ground noise while I am working. When I do not have those, I struggle to concentrate.  I love interruptions.  I have another family member who needs quiet to concentrate.  There are energetic reasons for this. 

We as parents are here to guide and keep safe not to make clones of ourselves. I have a daughter who need to be exhausted to go to sleep, she needs to keep busy get outside, she needs exercise. She spends 6 hours in school and an little more than 1 hour on a bus per day.  I think she gets 20 minutes for recess and gym class once a week.  I find when we go out after school or she rides or cares for her animals she is much easier to deal with.

My son is very very sensitive to energy and his surroundings.  He takes things very literally and does not like to be accused of things he is not or grouped with others.  He resists group activities etc.  Since he was small I tired to get him involved in every activity I could think of, he was never great at them (nor would I be if I was forced to do it) and he didn't like it.  I remember feeling like a failure and wondering how others would look at him and at me.  I am now settled and strong in the fact that my son is creative he likes to create things, movies, figures, drawing, and games.  He would rather create than play hockey and that is fine.  It has been hard to find people with similar interests but they are out there and like anything else they will find him.  I did what I could, I give him options he chooses what he likes and what he doesn't.

I guess I wonder how well we know our kids and how often are we placing our expectations or our failures on them to live differently. 

I think about how much my son has endured mentally in his almost 12 years of life and the fact that his brain has not even gotten bumpy yet.  Whenever I am frustrated I think of his big soft brain still developing in his head and it gives me a different perspective.

I could babble all day on this so I will stop here.

Blessings on your parenting journey!!






 

Reading Energy

Everyone has the ability to receive messages from beyond.

As we know energy is not created and does not  die it just changes form, so it is easy to believe that when we pass the energy stays around in one way or another.  

I deal in energy, I feel things. I can pickup imprints that have been left on things by others. Sometimes I can determine the sex of the imprinter and sometimes I pick up a name as in one experiment I was asked to do I was given a bracelet by a stranger and asked immediately “Who is Rita?”  Rita, I was told was the person who gave this woman the bracelet and she had passed.  When I held the woman’s hand I saw a young man with a vibrant smile, I explained the smile to her, she told me it was her son who had passed and then showed me a picture in which I saw the same vibrant smile.  

Sometimes I am drawn to something like a piece of jewelry and I comment on it and am told it was a loved ones.  Am I a medium, not by trade,  but I believe I pickup information a lot.  I also have vivid dreams in which I am “visited” by those who have passed.  I am known for my weird Tammy moments or feelings. One friend in particular if we lose touch I know when she needs me in her life or when she is struggling or when something good or bad happens. 

Years ago a friend of mine passed in a violent accident.  I was driving on a road parallel to where it occurred and felt the sorrow.  I did not know until later that day that she was gone, but I never for one minute forget the feeling I felt that day at the exact time of her accident.  Energy is a powerful thing. 

When I do Reiki I get messages in relation to a person’s physical or emotional state. Sometimes I know when a lost loved one enters the room. If they do.  On one occasion I felt someone was behind me and helping to guide my hands but my throat became extremely phlegmy feeling and I had to keep clearing it.  I received the feeling that I had to tell this woman she is never alone.  When I told her I felt someone was with us and there was something about the throat I needed to mention, she knew instantly who was there as he husband had passed from esophageal cancer.  

These things happen, coincidence? I do not think so, I believe in my ability to feel and read energy. 

Think of people as light bodies and it may be easier to understand what we are really made of.  We are made of energy and other particles.  These materials and other things blend to create out 3 dimensional form but imagine just light bodies.  Light shaped into that of a human or other living thing even rock,

Take away the solid form and you are left with a light body.  Rocks have light bodies just as people and animals do.  

Now imagine you cannot speak and all you have to express yourself is the light body.  The expression would come from the vibration, color, and movements of the light body.  This is what I work with in an energy session.  

I actually saw my light body recently and may be how I came up with this description.  I was doing Reiki on a horse from about 50 yards away and as I was working on him I saw my light body standing next to him and placing its hands where I was directing the energy. It was a surreal experience.  

Many people can see light bodies in fact with proper training everyone can. A light body would be similar to seeing someone’s aura. There is no magic in seeing auras, it is a visual training that anyone can do.  I see auras not colors ,all the time but the aura.  I feel the colors

I have never really understood how I do what I do, I just know I do it and I pretty much always have.  As a child I used to see light bodies in the dark, so I always needed a light on.  My room was across from the bathroom and my bed set up to see right across into it (I know bad Feng Shui) I used to call them toilet people because they would come out of the toilet and turn down the hall to disappear into the living room wall. Everyone thought I was nuts, I even did until in a class a famous medium talked about the exact same type of presence in her room at night.  They are exactly what I was describing about, what I now call light bodies. Except it is not just of the dead we are all light bodies.  

 

I really am not sure if this should be part of the book I am writing or just a blog post, maybe it is both, but I felt compelled to share it with you all so enjoy!

Wishing you the best this holiday season!

Bright Blessings!

Reiki and Depression

I recently did a survey and one of the top questions was how Energy work can help with depression and/or anxiety.

As many of you may already know I have had a history of anxiety and depression as well as being clean and sober for just shy of 19 years. (oh man I thought it was 20 this year, would have added more in dramatic effect)

I spent a lot of time in therapy talking about all the things that happened to me, year after year.  I never seemed to get any tools to get over the hardships, just sat there rehashing over and over.  Telling the story mechanically.  Therapy is great if you have a goal or something to work on, otherwise you are just there telling the same story over and over with no view of how to change things . I finally was able to graduate therapy years ago after meeting with a woman who wanted me to see my power and stop telling my story.

I was also on medication and she did not approve of medication.  Medication is also good to help take the edge off or balance your chemicals.   Energy work is not medicine and it cannot cure you so stay on what you are on and keep seeing who you see (or trade them in for a goal orientated therapist)  keep going to AA  whatever it is you are doing. How is that for a wordy disclaimer!?

ANYWAY.....Reiki and other Energy work to relieve symptoms of Depression, Anxiety, and Detox.  They help you to relax and over time teach you to get to calm when you need to get to calm or draw in energy when you need to draw in energy. Reiki is great for helping issues with sleep too.  Reciting the 5 Reiki Principles can also lift your mood and change your day.  Try it.

 Shoufuku no hihoo
Manbyo no ley-yaku
Kyo dake wa
Okolu-na
Shinpai suna
Kansha shite
Goo hage me
Hito ni shinsetsu ni
Asa yuu gassho shite kokoro ni neji kuchi ni tonaeyo
Shin shin kaizen, Usui Reiki Ryoho
Chosso Usui Mikao

 no no no wait that is in Japenses sorry, here:

Just for Today
Don't get angry
Don't worry
Be Grateful
Work hard
Be kind to others

You may find other writings that add more profound words but this is the jist of the Reiki practitioner.

Reiki doesn't hurt but can in certain people and in certain situations produce a strong release.  I cry when having energy work done, especially if I am stuffing emotions or not maintaining my own energetic health.  Some people get really excited for a bit, angry, or even dizzy.  It is the movement of energy that you are experiencing and it is why you should go to someone you trust and who can assist with these types of releases.

I recently heard a story about someone going to a spa and having all sorts of energetic work done in a Reiki session. I had to question the practitioners motives, becasue if you do not know someone or how they react to the manipulation of their energy field, you should not be doing too much to them the first time.

For me I think a practitioner who has a support team is the best kind to go to.  Since we are talking about anxiety and depression don't be shy ask them if they have a list of psychologists or what their background is. A Reiki practitioner can listen or give you energetic hints on how to deal with many things but remember they are not a licensed counselor. If they start to over counsel ..... run!

I am not saying be untrusting of all people, well maybe I am, I am saying you are the client and they are there to do what is best for you.

Off that soapbox.

Reiki helps the symptoms that accompany depression and anxiety first, in time it assists with the depression and anxiety by aligning your energy and releasing the places that hold onto the darkness.

As always I wish you love and light!

We all have flaws

I know it has been a while and I hope to be able to write more regularly once the holidays are over.



I have been thinking about speaking our truth this week. I was prompted by the throat Chakra suggestion I received this week and the idea to do weekly Chakra information.  Thanks Vickie!

I will be posting that information on my FB page Tammy Murray Cousins Holistic Healing and Coaching weekly. I will also be posting that information on another page I am affiliated with "Women Empowering Other Women" 

Anyway I have been thinking about living and speaking our truth and what that means.  It doesn't mean walking around telling people off, in fact it is quite the contrary.  I believe first and foremost it is being true to ourselves and speaking to ourselves honestly.

We all have flaws, none of us are designed perfectly.  Wait let me use a different word because I think we are all perfect for who and where we are and that there is no real perfection standard we all must live by. 

Hmmm let me say it this way,  when we are not in acceptance of our flaws, or try to be what we thing others want us to be, this is where we run into trouble. 

In these cases no matter what others do we will not be happy or even notice. The thoughts in our heads are truly powerful things.

Many times because we are disappointed in ourselves for one reason or another, we will blame others, or behave in a passive aggressive manner to get attention from those whom we love.  Sometimes after that doesn't work we have outbursts in an attempt to explain the issue, but usually that doesn't end well and instead of stating what we need, we provide a long list of what others make us do. 

Sound familiar?

So I ask, what is your flaw and what have you been doing subconsciously to others because of it? 

I also challenge you to be honest with yourself. Love and accept your flaws, own them, love them.  It is in doing this, that you open yourself up to a much better state of being.

I know it is soo counter productive we live in a world humming with people telling us to  "lose weight" "get rid of wrinkles" "be a perfect parent" "be a better partner" and soo many more I cannot type them all. 

Take a moment today and love you for you.

 




 

Human Design and Waiting

I have been doing a lot more Human Design readings lately, and I LOVE that!  I love watching people faces when something resonates deeply.  Sometimes it looks like relief and sometimes it looks like confusion. 

The confusion comes from the realization that many of us in fact all but about 8% of the population are here to respond.  We are here to wait, wait to respond, wait to be invited, wait to make a decision. Waiting makes us uncomfortable, waiting makes us feel like we are failing, but in reality waiting is what most of us must do!

I remember when I learned Human Design I wanted to jump over my type and strategy and get right to the good stuff, the gates, or the CHiron, or more importantly the incarnation cross!  I didn't want to wait, not for a second because to me those were the things that were interesting.   Those are the things I wanted to know "NOW"

I watch many of my clients struggle with the waiting, we just are not conditioned to wait.  However until we master our type and strategy (and I mean master) the rest does not matter. We cannot fully live out and understand our characteristics (centers and gates), lessons (chiron), or purpose (incarnation crosses), until we understand out strategy. 

To recap very briefly, for those who have not had a chart done there are 5 types in Human Design: 

Manifestors make up  8% of the population and truly the only people who do not have to wait, but do need to be sure they slow down and inform those their actions will impact, even if it seems like an necessary step to them.They also must understand they cannot do it all. 


Projector  24% of the population they are wise wise beings, they know a ton, however they must wait to be invited into conversations, engagements of all kinds, or answer questions etc. When they give information or show up where they were not invited or where they may have invited themselves, or give information that may be relevant but was not requested, everyone feels uncomfortable. When they wait to be invited to speak or attend or work the energy is beautiful.

Reflector 1% of the population, reflectors are the mirrors to us all.  They are extremely sensitive to everyone's energy and amplify it back.  When decision making, Reflectors, to be at their best, strategy is to wait a total of 28 days. Over this time they think, evaluate, gets others input and in the end can make a solid decision that is right for them.

The rest of us fall under the Generator Category

Generators are worker bees they have sustainable workforce and life force energy. The generator strategy is to wait to respond, not to push their way or work their way into things. The hard part for a generator is that they will work hard on things regardless of whether it was entered into correctly or not.

Manifesting Generators are generators with a bit more pep, they have what is called a motor to the throat so they have a capacity to manifest differently than a generator, the strategy for a mani-gen is to wait to respond but also to take the time to inform those who will be impacted by what they are doing (or not doing).


You still may be wondering why it is so important to know your type and strategy and the answer is conditioning.  One of the best things about Human Design is it shows you who you really are, and not what society tells us we are supposed to be. An example is a reflector, they are the last person who should "just do it" yet I bet if I ever meet one that is just what they are trying to do, and not being successful at it. Another is a projector who is trying to be a work horse to get a promotion, it is not going to work.

Knowing your type and strategy, understanding it and implementing it will change your life. I challenge you whether you know your type or not to try waiting, if it works for you you are one of 4 types and if it doesn't, well you just may be a manifestor! 

'Til I think of something more to say.....
Bright Blessings!