Monday, February 24, 2014

Where is the Sun? The Gate 37

Where the hell is the sun?! Sometimes the energy we feel is a result of other transits and not the sun alone, but anytime you bump into an energy that is different or you do not feel often it can cause some bumps in life. 

When you remove old ways and old energy it opens new areas to add new energy and sometimes that empty spot can leave you feeling a bit off kilter. 

I am having a weird day as you will see in this weeks video.  I hope there is something in it for you!

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Where is the Sun? The Gate 55

hahaha I added some extras for you today.  The first is my first attempt at the video, I usually pride myself as "One Take Tammy" but not this week......

OK Now on to the next take 


And finally the only way I am going to describe a shadow that keeps appearing in my videos.   

Friday, February 14, 2014

It is your responsibilty

I was thinking about something today and thought I would share it here. 

There have been a couple people in my life that have expected me as a coach to understand their issues (and I do) and to allow them to continue not living up to their responsibility because they have some problems.  However the whole reason for being a coach is to empower people into understanding that they have what they need, they are able to change their current circumstance, to let go of their past, and move forward confidently into the light of who they really are.

If I just handed them a pity card and let them continue to feel like the world is against them, well then I would not be doing my job at all. 

Change is not easy it takes time, patience, and forgiveness.  All you need to do is be willing to take not only the first step but all those in between where you are now and where you want to be.

Blessings to you all on your journey, where ever you are! 

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Where is the Sun? The Gate 30

The energies of the gate 30 are all about desires and things we are passionate about.  It is the clinging fire.  This energy can cause burnout in others if it is not harnessed. 

I have the 30 defined all the time, I know I can burn people out, but I don't notice it much unless I catch myself focussed really hard on an outcome or trying to find something out.  I see it as a distraction, yet it can be obsessive until it is completed.  This energy can be good, if I am working on a project but not good longer term. If it gets really bad, I burn myself out.

So over the next 6 days you may feel more passionate, more desires may come up, more energy to want to get things done, you may not have it to actually get things done. 

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Monday, February 10, 2014

Smile a little.....

I never really think about being nice to people.  It just sort of happens.  I say hi to everyone I see or at least smile.

I remember when I had my corporate job a friend used to ask me after people walked by "Do you know him/her?" my response "No" ..... from that point on she called me the mayor.  I guess I have always been that way, even in my shyest moments I will smile and say hello.

It isn't always a great thing, as people are really attracted to that kindness and can turn into stalkers, but for the most part it has been cool.

I was reminded again of how I am nice to people, even people who I find annoying or will later confess I may dislike very much.  I guess it is the customer service in me.  My mom used to say "kill the with kindness" I guess I listened to her more than we thought.  :)  Imagine that.

Anyway I know of at least one person who is going to try and be nice to people this week.  She described herself as a bitch, I disagree she is very kind, just more reserved, she waits for the "Hi".  I wonder if this week she will throw out the "Hi".

I challenge you all to be kind, be friendly, throw a smile or a "hi" at someone.  It is way easier than being upset or avoiding or ignoring.  Take some time this week and be kind.

A down side to being so friendly is if I am feeling down or just not in the mood and I am quiet.  It is super noticeable so be sure not to be over the top.  :)  You don't want people to take notice when you are done being nice, or just don't feel like it.

Try it and let me know how it goes. 

Saturday, February 8, 2014

Where is the Sun? Gate 49 Human Design

I'M DONE!!!!!!

The gate of principals. Revolution.

The energy of agreements, the divorce gate.  If someone does not live up to their end of an agreement you will shut them out, Sometimes forgiveness is a better solution and this energy can be changed to know who should be shut out and who should be forgiven.  However when you are done you are done no questions asked, no more chances.  Intimacy energy for marriage.

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Sunday, February 2, 2014

It's Not Personal!

One of the Key things that Human Design teaches is - It is not personal.  How others act, what they do or say, never has anything to do with you. 

As humans we have been conditioned to try and make it about us, but it isn't. 

I am often asked for examples and I never share them because I feel I sound like I am attached to it, and I am not.   I know now people think I am attached to it only becasue they are and they project it on me. 

I will tell you a true story.  I recently got back in touch with a friend of an ex boyfriend.  I should say we have started talking a lot more he friended me on facebook years ago.  Anyway....he let me know about the passing of someones mom.  She and I were really close back then, until we weren't and it was under pretty emotional circumstances. I do not recall if what she did was intentional or I misunderstood but it was what it was.  It hurt me.

Me being me, thinks a lot about how I would want to be treated in a situation, I packed up the past and tossed it and reached out.  We had a great time catching up and were planning to get together. The guy friend asked me to pass on a message.  To me it was an easy nice message.  Condolences, thinking of you .

She never responded and blocked me.  At least I think she did, I am not sure I have never been blocked before (that I have noticed.....irrelevant  to the story), but her response was odd.  I know her and him dated over 20 years ago....anyway......

I don't usually throw stuff like this out there, I try not to talk about a lot anymore, I would rather spend my time processing it and making sure I am doing what is right for me.  

I do share these types of things if I think it can teach others. 

Years ago I would have wondered what I did or thought I was unworthy of friendship.  NOW I understand it is her thing, it is not mine.  It has nothing to do with me, perhaps there is more history between the two, perhaps she lost her internet connection. perhaps she doesn't like me, perhaps her fingers fell off..... I don't know, I won't know so I don't need to care.  I do not feel the need to prove myself or explain.  It has taken a really really long time to feel this way.  I choose no drama.

I am a bit saddened as we were once pretty close, but as with other things that come and go, they come and go.

Anyone else now singing Karma Chameleon?

It has taken me a really really long time to release a lot from my mid-twenties.  It is funny the stuff we allow ourselves to carry around.  It feels weird to actually let a lot of it go. 

It is just like now, as I move on from people, situations, or conversations.  I don't hate the people, the people are not bad, they are just not a good fit for me.  It isn't that the conversations aren't entertaining just not where I need to spend my energy right now.  It doesn't mean I do not care, or I am not here to support in any way I can.   I just have decided that those situations or people are not right for me in that moment, it is not their fault, tomorrow I may want to spend my energy there. 

So I share all of this because I know a lot of people who are dealing with what someone else has done or said recently or that they recently learned of.  Although it is effecting their immediate situation, I hope that not one of them blames themselves for whatever it was the other did or said, because it wasn't about them at all. I hope none of you carry it around for 18 years or look back and question yourselves, because what you are doing is right for you in this moment, and it will all be OK. 

Please remember it is not personal.  

Saturday, February 1, 2014

Where is the Sun? Gate 13

The energy of the 13 is that of Fellowship.  Bringing people together, sharing, and of course secrets.  People will spill their guts to you and not even realize they have done it. People trust you and like you they feel comfortable in your presence. 

I have the gate 13 in my chart.  I have the 13 in my conscious Sun and it is a neat energy. Although the energy unites it also retreats. So you may need or long for periods of alone time that are very important to you.  

There is soo much in this energy and I focus on a bit in my video but another side is the truthfulness This is a quote from my mentor Karen Curry "knowing our truth and revealing ourselves to our partners and friends. This is the time to come clean, ask for what you want and see where the "chips" land, so to speak. The love that endures is the love that survives this reign of truth. The love that walks away was never true love"

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